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A lesson I wish I had learned early in life

A lesson I wish I had learned early in life was the importance of trusting my instincts. Listening to my inner voice. A little late in life, I realized that by believing in my own judgment, I was guided in the right direction, even when the path ahead seemed uncertain. The reasoning behind this is straightforward: My instincts are honed by my experiences over the years. I know my strengths and limitations, what I am capable of, and where my boundaries lie. Relying on others to make decisions for me doesn’t make sense, as their choices are shaped by their own perspectives and interests. Each person’s conclusion is influenced by what benefits them, not necessarily what’s best for me. This understanding has shaped my approach to decision-making, and it’s a principle I have adhered to ever since.

A personality trait that consistently raises a red flag

A personality trait that consistently raises a red flag for me is when someone is overly sweet or excessively kind right from the start. Some might call me cynical or grumpy, but life has taught me a valuable lesson: nobody does anything for you without expecting something in return, whether it’s attention, favors, or some form of leverage later on. It’s not that kindness itself is suspicious, but when it feels too good to be true or seems over the top, my guard goes up. Authentic relationships are built on balance and genuine connection, not flattery and grand gestures with strings attached. It’s a reminder to trust actions over words and to be cautious of those whose kindness seems to have hidden motives.

I do hold grudges

Let’s be honestI’m no saint, and I won’t pretend to be. I do hold grudges, especially against those who have wronged me in ways that are hard to forget. I hold a grudge against people who: These are the kind of actions that leave a mark, and sometimes, it’s hard to let go. I know holding grudges is not good for the soul and so on. Over the years I have devised a way of avoiding accumulating such intense feelings in myself. In the long run I need to take care of myself and those around me. That will only happen when I play my role in life to perfection. I cannot let these grudges pull me down.